Our tribe is having a great discussion on Marco Polo this morning!
The class changed to Scroll 2 yesterday – one of my favorites, for sure – “I will greet this day with Love in my heart.” This morning, there was a lot of chatter on our Marco Polo group around love.
One of our members shared about how having proper boundaries and disconnecting from people in order to deal with people that have hurt us, been abusive, or have otherwise been toxic to our lives, doesn’t mean we don’t love.
“Maybe it’s more loving to do that than to let people walk all over you.” He went on to say that he can say, ‘I love you’ to those people in his mind, but there is a boundary. He sits on his porch and his house is surrounded by a white picket fence – he says, “I love you” to those people while they are outside of the fence. Some of them get to come in the gate, but they don’t get to come onto the front porch. Some of them come to the front porch, and some people get to come right inside!
I hope that I’m the person that gets to come inside, but I sure do have people in my life that have to stay outside the fence. I’m a better person for having put up that boundary. How about you?
I love this illustration !
I did, too! You can never tell where and idea for a blog post will come from!
That is a perfect way to solve the challenge of loving the ones that have hurt us. Learning to let that stuff go…
I agree, Dave!
So beautiful that another member made you think about boundaries. I have found that I can be friendly to many but only have 1 friend who I can trust because I have been burnt before by lovers and friends but realize that is no way to live to protect my heart is to be on my own island which can be lonely. I had a best friend who really wronged me I never had the courage to tell her why because I was so hurt with her betrayal. I have carried that burden for 10 years because I was afraid of confrontation. I hope I can find the courage to forgive her and move on that is the true source of power forgiveness.
Forgiveness doesn’t require courage. It’s a decision. Time to forgive, let go, and move on.